ஐღº Genuine Acceptance ºღஐ

So we've always talked about how acceptable a person is. Of course to accept a person means to accept them for who they are, no doubt about that. But how do we know if we are truly accepting a person for who they are? Well i do have a question that i have been thinking about lately... Which is the differences between accepting a person for who they are and what they are.

It's simple really when a person is trying to make you accept them, they will do everything that is needed to get the green light for you're heart. But that right there is the problem. Because apparently when a person is trying to make you accept them, they will try their very best to show you the best side of them. And when they get closer to you, then only they slowly show their true colors; their true intentions and behaviors. So then i was curious about how people had a view on this. I posted a status on FB saying "Fear not to show the worst of yourself, as only true ones will stay". Apparently i didn't got a good response from there.

So the idea i had was, what if you try your best to show the worst side of you possible to a person at first sight? Do no priming or relationship bonding before showing them your true self. Would that change how they would treat you in the future? 

A simple example is that for example you've just met a person who you are interested to be friends with. However you are aware that you have a habit of smoking (Not offending any smokers out there). Which choice would you make:

A) Don't smoke on first occasion, get to know each other better first, then as both person gets closer, slowly reveal your habit to that person.

or 

B) Smoke at first occasion, regardless of how they might think about your habits.

Which choice would you make?

Well that's the question right there. Because if you prime a person before hand that you are a nice person, and that you have your good qualities as well, then slowly reveal your bad ones to them, it is more likely that they would take it easier on you and are more likely to accept your flaws. But then by doing this before hand priming has already alter the acceptance level of people towards you... They don't mind your bad habits because you are close to them, and that you are their friends. Not because of the fact that they accepted you as a person who has bad qualities. 

So by stating that example above, does that mean that everyone who hasn't seen the worst of us, or has seen the bad side of us after being primed that we are nice people have not genuinely accepted us?

Being said that, does that mean that by showing a person the worst side of us will tell us if they truly like us from the bottom of their heart? 

For me i solely believe that if a person does genuinely accept us as what we are, but not who we are, they are the ones that accepts us for what we are made of; the one who accepts us for our nature.

Drop me a Msg at FB and tell me how you think about it :)

https://www.facebook.com/YakuzaMyths

And once again thanks for reading my blog :):)

Fear not to show the worst of yourself, 

as only true ones will stay.

A.C out...
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